THE JOURNEY: BEING A GOOD FRIEND

Being a good friend is like navigating a beautiful, yet sometimes stormy sea. One of the most challenging waves to ride is balancing the delicate act of supporting your friends while ensuring you don’t drown in their troubles. Picture this: you're sitting on the couch, your friend pouring out their heart about a rough day, and you want to be their rock. But deep down, you feel the uneasiness of your own worries pressing down like a fish bone in your throat. It’s crucial to recognize when to lend a listening ear and when to take a step back and recharge. After all, you can’t pour from an empty cup!

Managing expectations can feel like trying to juggle flaming torches—exciting but risky! Friends often come with their own unique set of needs, whether it’s time spent together or emotional support. One moment you’re sharing laughter over drinks, and the next, there’s an unspoken tension because one of you feels neglected. Open communication is the lifeline here; it’s like having a compass that guides you through misunderstandings and helps set clear boundaries. As they say, “ a smooth sea never made a skilled sailor.” Navigating these waters together strengthens your bond.

Honestly is the bedrock of true friendship, even when it feels like walking on a tightrope. There have been times when I’ve had to gently tell my best friend that their choices were leading them down a rocky path. It wasn’t easy; my heart raced as I gathered the courage to speak up. But being real with each other means having those tough conversations wrapped in love and concern. It’s about blending support with constructive feedback—a recipe that requires sensitivity and a sprinkle of vulnerability.

Conflict management is another layer in this intricate tapestry of friendship. Disagreements can erupt like sudden thunderstorms—unexpected and intense! I remember a heated argument I had with my closest friend over something trivial that spiraled out of control. Emotions ran high, but we both knew that letting anger fester would only create distance between us. Instead, we took deep breaths and approached each other with open hearts, ready to find common ground. Learning to forgive and finding solutions together is what turned that storm into a gentle breeze.

In essence, being a good friend is like dancing in the rain—it has its ups and downs but is ultimately exhilarating! Balancing giving and receiving feels like a constant ebb and flow. Setting boundaries can be as tricky as threading a needle. Being genuine requires courage akin to climbing a mountain without safety gear. Yet, with empathy as our guiding star, clear communication as our map, and respect as our foundation, we can navigate these challenges beautifully.

In the end, friendships are precious gems that sparkle even amidst life’s chaos. They require effort, love, and authenticity—qualities that transform ordinary moments into unforgettable memories.

- Ivy Okonkwo

Ndidi Adekunle

Ndidi Olamide Adekunle, the Lord's Handmaiden as she likes to be remembered, is first a woman hungry for the truth of God, then a loving wife to a Missionary Evangelist, mother to three growing kids, a Consultant for the Education industry in her country Nigeria, and an Intentional Parenting advocate.

In that order.

She's had her fair share of  life's trials and tests and has come to know for herself without a doubt, the efficacy of God's word given to man, and of the blood of Jesus shed for man.

Having come to understand also, that the mind and heart of Abba Father, is an intimate relationship with His people. As such, His standing plan for the restoration of all things, to man, here on earth, and ultimately in the New Creation.

Where sin abounds, His grace doth much more abound.

This she knows, is Truth and desires that all may come to the same practical understanding, and together we may walk in it, and grow in it.

So help us God.



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