Trauma
Trauma is a deeply distressing or disturbing experience. It could be the loss of a loved one through death or divorce; it could be from heartbreak, emotional or physical abuse, betrayal, disappointment, hurt, or pain from an experience.
It could also even be a loss to addiction or a shock concerning gender preferences, maladaptive family dynamics. Not being ready for major life changes like an illness, an empty nest, menopause, or even a midlife crisis. You are never prepared, it’s unexpected and you do not have control over it.
The experience could have happened during childhood or recently. Some triggers just keep bringing them back. It is like reopening a wound that is already healing.
Triggers occur when something read, seen, or heard causes you distress as a result of arousing feelings or memories associated with a particular traumatic experience or event.
You wonder: Will this pain ever go away? We just assume we will be fine without doing anything about it. The aftermath of not putting a name to what you are going through and just allowing it to slide under the rug is what manifests as trauma in the long run.
Ignoring what you are feeling and the pain associated with it and thinking you can handle it alone backfires. This is why we have dysfunctional adults who ultimately raise dysfunctional children because of the hurt or pain they refuse to deal with.
When we choose to ignore trauma and refuse to admit it, it starts to affect every part of our lives and limits us from being the best we are made to be. Not dealing with this issue has consequences and could be passed on from one generation to another.
So what are you going to do about it? We are still in the spirit of self-reflection. If you lie to yourself, trying to be strong, you shortchange yourself. These things need to be called out before they take over your whole being. There is nothing to be ashamed of.
You have to get the right counsel and help. Speak up to the right person who can help you. Recognizing that you are emotionally not right is a good step in the right direction.
Do not say I do not have money. Some of these things do not even need money. It takes you from going from denial to acceptance and grieving what you thought you had or could have had and accepting your new situation.
I have seen many broken people transform their pain into purpose. Yes, you can get help. Yes, the pain will go away, though you may never forget it. But the way you react to it after your healing will be different.
A lot of new decisions need to come into play as we draw close to another year. I agree that some decisions are difficult, but if the situation you are in is no longer serving you, then you must lack wisdom if you keep doing what continually causes you pain.
Help is everywhere. So tell me, are you ready to take action and get your control and life back? Do not let anyone or anything stop you from becoming who you are meant to be.
You can thrive, flourish, and live those dreams again. I have seen it play out many times. Write your action plan and do not stop until you get the help and support you need.
