Relationship tips 2
Age gap and dating older men to marry.
Why are you attracted to an older man?
- First of all have you ever asked yourself why you seem to be attracted to a much older man?
- What do you think you enjoy about this?
- Do you see yourself getting married to one and happy?
- Know your personality before you get in.
Yes older guys are more atttractive because:
- They seem more mature
- Experienced
- Financial Security
- Achievers
- Help you grow, motivates you.
- More stable
- Responsible
Not all of them are.
But that's the general understanding.
The downside are these:
- Set in their ways
- Have routines.
- Difficult to change him.
- He is not able to unlearn bad habits he has formed over the years.
- Conservative so can't flow with your thinking.
- Controlling
Want to be in charge always.
- Know it all.
They always think they're smarter and ignore your ideas.
- Baggage from the past relationships
Ex wives and children.
- History
He is not a saint. Must have made a lot of mistakes and hurt some people. Which he may be paying for one way or the other.
- Social - a big one
Difficult to fit into his circle. They see you as an outsider. How will you feel if he doesn't like taking you when he is going to important parties and functions where his circle will be?
They may see you as just a sex toy especially when you can't participate in their conversations.
You get intimidated and start to feel insecure.
You start being anxious of going even if he allows you because what they discuss is too technical to be part of.
- Stigma - that you're a gold digger
So a lot of his friends, colleagues, children and relatives may not like, nor have any regard for you nor respect you.
- Medical
the biggest issues that women don't like talking about.
Lifestyle diseases.
Some medications for these diseases have adverse effects and complications.
Can cause
- Erectile dysfunction
- low libido
Erectile dysfunction and low libido also occurs as you age depending on the lifestyle of the individual and nature of job.
Their women end up frustrated, lonely and pushed to having affairs.
If caught it ends up badly.
If you're someone that struggles with low self esteem or lack of self confidence, it may worsen.
So think it through before you make this choice.
You may think i want the comfort, sex does not matter.
When a man ignores you and doesn't have sex with you. You start to think something is wrong with you or not enough.It starts to affect your self esteem.
They will hide it and form fights because they don't want to admit they have erectile dysfunction or low libido. Some start to use Viagara. What if his heart is not strong?
Relationship is not a joke. There are too many moving parts. Discernment is needed. knowlege of yourself is important. Know your strengths. Know your weaknesses.
There is no perfect man but a man that fears God will give you more peace.
They malfunction too but at least you have something stronger in common.
Remember work on yourself too.
Are you a good wife material?
This is Preparation time for you as well while waiting.
Empower yourself.
Education is key.
Having a skill is key.
Whatever route you take, do something meaningful with your life.
Contributions :
"This can also be explained by the fact that an older man is more established, so his vibe will be more mature, refined and sophisticated. For example, an older guy has a great house, really nice condo, admirable career going, and has money saved or invested. To most ladies, although older men don’t have the energy to be half as fun as their younger counterparts, it is really super attractive to hear a man talk about the latest stock market trades, as opposed to who won in a game of pool at the club. Older men are mature because they will not make inappropriate jokes that will cause a fight. Since they have more dating experience, they understand the basics of what makes a woman tick, such as need for communication, romance, as well as physical and emotional needs. Older men don’t force their partners to hang out with friends who only go down shot after shot, and displaying their unruly behaviour at the club.Better yet, they are mature enough to understand that a proper date is defined by quiet evenings and interesting conversations. Mature men are less governed by over-the-top emotions and childish behaviour, which is very attractive to young women because it means they will waste less time in petty squabbles about inconsequential things with their partner. "
- Irene
But hurt you less?
They hurt you because they come up with excuses why they can't marry you on the long Run. They eventually dump you. They can tag you along for years. They have history and responsibilities and will eventually choose but not you.
Yes they do have experience.
Experience doesn't mean they are mature.
Experience doesn't mean they won't hurt you.
Caring for you doesn't mean they will marry you.
Remember to marry is the focus and goal.
The truth about this is you can't get along with their friends.
They see you as an outsider.
You won't enjoy what they enjoy.
So they don't want to take you out with their friends.
They don't want you to embarass them.
That's why most times they go out with you alone.
You won't have things to contribute.
They see you as not smart for their intellectual conversations.
What are your values?
What do you want?
Why must a man buy gifts for you?
Wait for your own man and grow with him.
Rather buy what you can afford.
You will get there!!!
"Establish yourself first. Go to school. Work, be up to date with whats happening around your society or community. Other than arguing 24/7 about netflix series on who is dating who. Find sites or programmes that improves you intellectually. Get involved in debates on or off social media that are constructive than pulling other people down. Always find time to read, learn a new skill. Enroll in a college if you can afford and study. Join free online courses the list is endless. Establish yourself be it you are meeting a young or older guy."
- Ann
May the Lord cause you all to be discerning and give you the ability to choose wisely.
May he renew your strength so you can wait patiently expecting the best from God your heavenly father.
May he heal every broken heart.
Psalms 34:18
The LORD is near to the brokenhearted and saves the crushed in spirit.
Psalms 73:26
My flesh and my heart may fail, but God is the strength of my heart and my portion forever.
Isaiah 41:10
Fear not, for I am with you; be not dismayed, for I am your God; I will strengthen you, I will help you, I will uphold you with my righteous right hand.
