God is the best match maker

Little tips and a word of encouragement for a single lady out there.

Like every season of life, singleness is a season to be enjoyed and celebrated not endured. There are many reasons why we must first be single before we marry. We must allow ourselves to slow down and listen to the beautiful wisdoms of singleness or risk missing the joys of being single.

As you wait for your partner, may your heart be stilled and all the care of seeking a partner be cast upon the Lord because he deeply cares about you, he wants the best for you and most importantly, he longs to give you the desires of your heart.

Here are a few tips:

A pure life

Don’t drag the filth of sexual immorality into the divine space of your singleness. It may come with more filth and create build up, that stench can linger for a while and could hinder you from meeting the right partner. No, you do not need to kiss many frogs to find the best frog. Leave the swamp alone, there is a prince in waiting for you. The bible word is flee! Run! Grab hold of your shoes and flee out of that mess, delete “bad” phone numbers, WhatsApp’s, texts – flee!

“Flee fornication. Every sin that a man doeth is without the body; but he that committeth fornication sinneth against his own body.” – 1 Corinthians 6:18

That is the heavy tip but it’s the most important one. Now some tips from the story of Isaac when Abraham’s servant found him his darling wife Rebecca. Remember God is the best match maker.

The Lord’s promise

Abraham was confident concerning God’s oath to him. “To your offspring I will give this land.” Therefore, he knew which specific directions to give his servant. The servant was not to get a wife for Isaac from the Canaanite women but to go back to Abraham’s people.

Concerning matchmaking, God has made promises to us regarding his expectation for Christian marriage in his word, we would be wise to find them out and abide by them especially prior to getting married. For example:

“Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? and what communion hath light with darkness?” – 2 Corinthians 6:14

“Daughters of Jerusalem, I charge you by the gazelles and by the does of the field: Do not arouse or awaken love until it so desires.” – Songs of Solomon 3:5

Other scriptures : Ezra 9:2, 1 Corinthians 5:9, Exodus 34:16, Judges 14:3, Deuteronomy 7:3

May you seek out more scriptures that minister to you God’s divine plan for marriage.

Honor

In Genesis 24, we see that it is Abraham, father of the groom to be, Isaac, who is involved in finding a wife for his son. In today’s world things may be different, and different cultures may have different procedures with regards to finding a marriage partner but I believe what we see here is a message concerning honor.

We see that Isaac is not consulted or even involved in the processing of finding himself a wife and yet because of the order in which things are executed and his father’s reverence for the Lord, the perfect wife is found- Rebecca.

Can we too honour those who have authority over us by allowing them to have a say in our process? Can we ask their advice and then present it to the Lord in prayer and trust him as the best match maker?

Ephesians 6:2 reads, “Honour thy father and mother; (which is the first commandment with promise;)”

God’s way is often opposite to the way of the world. I believe when we honour our parents there is a blessing in it. God honours humility and you can continue to trust God that he knows what you want. He has good plans for us and indeed he will give us the desires of our hearts. God is the best match maker.

Be the original you

In the scripture when Jacob wanted to marry Rachael, he was made to work seven years of labour and got Leah, he then worked another seven years for Rachael whom he already had.

The man God has for you will go to great lengths for you. He is looking for you and you alone. Your partner in waiting is not looking for the counterfeit you.

There is no need to wear a false version of yourself or behave in a manner that is not realistic to your character. Doing this will either lead you to miss the right person or to end up with the wrong person who is ok with the version you presented, but then you’d have to live up to this version forever. Not cool and not so!

Be original. If they walk away, then they are not for you anyways. It matters not if all your friends are married and the entire village is married too. You are looking for Mr. Right not Mr. Right Now. The Lord is able to strengthen you as you wait. Pray for strength.

(Isaiah 40:31)

Step out without being common

Get involved with activities.

All the fun programs that your friends have been chatting about are for you too.

Singleness is a fantastic time to develop new skills, build new ideas, make like-minded friends, travel, acquire knowledge in a special field and so much more!

Keeping in mind to remain uncommon, these hobbies and activities will send the drive to get married to the back of your mind or even out of your mind as you trust God to be your match maker.

Be humble

Be willing to go the distance in ways you usually wouldn’t such as helping out with your family or any other ideas and places that may come to you as an opportunity to think about others. Scripture mentions Rebecca’s brother and yet we see that it was Rebecca that went to the well and got the surprise of a divine connection.

Often the visible reward for humility is connected to divine destiny. Like God smiling down on you, you will find yourself in the right place at the right time.

A life unto the Lord

Finally, keep reminding yourself of the ultimate purpose of singleness which is to please the Lord. Paul writes this in 1 Corinthians 7:34, “The unmarried woman cares about the things of the Lord, that she may be holy both in body and in spirit. But she who is married cares about the things of the world—how she may please her husband.”

Don’t waste your singleness. It is a beautiful time to grow a deep and unshakeable relationship with the Lord.

I pray that the Lord will strengthen you as you wait. May he grant you a supernatural enjoyment of the waiting phase. May you find peace and confidence in knowing that the greatest match maker, God, is working in your favour to grant you the right person at the right time.

Blessings.

Arvin Kaufman

www.salvationengine.com